In human language there seems to be a direct link between perception and action for back-channel feedback, that is, the grunts and other acknowledgements produced by a listener in a conversation. In particular, in Japanese, detection of a low pitch region in the speaker's utterance often cues the listener to produce back-channel feedback. This fact has been exploited in a system that can interact with unsuspecting speakers and appear to converse, in real time. This finding suggests that Brooks' (\citeyear{brooks-reason},\citeyear{brooks}) methodology for the study and synthesis of physical behavior is relevant also for social behavior. If so, then real-time responsiveness, rather than better phoneme recognition, is a top priority for the construction of spoken language systems and for the scientific study of language.